Going through the post-shower process with my Tall-but-tiny hubby. First, remind him he's got a clit, not a cock (or even a penis!). Then lock it up in what I like to call his "clit cover." Then, I have him put on his pink panties!
You think the fear comes from the act, but it really comes from what it represents: surrendering the illusion that you’re in charge, and discovering how calm your mind gets when someone else sets the rhythm.